When you are loving to yourself, you care for the earth.
One way of taking care of yourself is by listening to your inner voice. A person may be completely unaware that they have an inner voice, and even deny that they have one, but everyone has an inner voice.
Your inner voice is the dialogue you have with yourself about yourself. Your inner voice may congratulate or condemn you. It may tell you that you are beautiful or that you are unattractive. It may cheer you on, or discourage you. Upon reflection of something you’ve done, your inner voice may tell you it was a job well done, or that it was not good enough.
One of the ways you can tell if your inner voice is helpful is by what it tells you about your body. Reflect for a moment, right now, on what you think about your body; about your appearance, weight and shape.
A positive inner voice tells you that you are beautiful and your body shape is just as it should be. It tells you that you are worthy of care and respect for the simple reason that you exist. A positive inner voice allows you to rest comfortably in the beauty of your body rather than compare yourself to others or to some ideal.
A negative inner voice tells you that some part of your body is flawed. It tells you that you are too fat or too thin, too short or too tall. It may tell you that you are unattractive without makeup or working out, or that you are too old or not athletic enough. The media and cultural mores reinforce your negative body image, making it hard not to believe your negative inner voice.
It would be nice if changing your inner voice were as easy as making up your mind to do so, but for most people, this is not so. Like most people, your inner voice arises without your active choice and often without awareness of its arising. If you find that your inner voice has unkind things to say to you about your body.
There are three steps you can take to become kinder towards yourself, which will extend into kindness towards others and the planet.
The first step is called noting. Noting is the simple act of noticing when your inner voice has spoken. Each time you note, you are developing your awareness of your inner voice. You can do this by noting whenever you hear the things your inner voice says, with a sentence such as, Oh, there’s my inner voice saying such and such. Noting does not entail judging yourself for what your inner voice says. If you find yourself condemning yourself for the things the inner voice says, then note that too. Noting also does not entail trying to change your inner voice. If you find yourself changing how you talk to yourself, such as by saying nice things about yourself, note that too. Noting is simply what it is.
The second step is talking to someone about your inner voice. For this step, it is important to talk with someone who does not judge you. It is also important that the person you talk to cares about you, is interested in what you are observing about your inner voice, and in what you are thinking and feeling about this. This person may be a friend or therapist, a sponsor or a group, or another person in your life. If your inner voice tells you you should harm yourself or others, then it may be a sign of clinical depression or other mental illness. If you think this may be the case for you, talk to your doctor.
The third step is to develop a habit of saying the most loving and supportive things you can think of to yourself. Do this every day, several times a day. It helps to tie this habit to others. Say nice things to yourself when you brush and floss your teeth, eat, drink something, and go to the bathroom. Say nice things when you get up in the morning and when you go to sleep.Use statements that touch your heart. These are statements for you alone. You may use a childhood nickname or a pet name you wish you had, followed by sweet and loving words. To find the right statements for you, you may recall the loving things a parent said to you or loving things you wish they had said. If you find it easy to say encouraging things to others, saying the same thing to yourself may be the right statement for you. At first, these statements may feel strange. You may not believe them. You may feel shame. If so, note these thoughts and feelings, and continue to say these loving statements to yourself.
As you increase your awareness of your inner voice, as you talk about your inner voice, and as you habitually say positive things to yourself throughout your day, you will gently and slowly change how your inner voice talks to you. By taking these steps on a daily basis - as best you can - you will eventually find your inner voice saying positive things on its own. When this occurs, praise yourself. Sometimes you may find negative things creeping back into your inner voice, particularly when things are hard in life. When this happens, talk with someone about what is happening in your life and what your inner voice is saying.
As your inner voice becomes kinder, you will find that you take better care of yourself, have more compassion for others, and have greater capacity for caring for the planet. For example, if today you think that people are the problem and the planet would be better off without humans, you may find a shift in your thinking. You may come to see that you, like every other being, are a part of nature and have a place on this planet. You may come to see that preserving nature and protecting the environment is an extension of the love and care you give yourself.
Botox is localized botulism that is often used in the forehead to paralyze your muscles so you lose its wrinkles. You may look great with a little Botox but it could be costing you your happiness.
One of the effects of Botox is a loss of empathy and compassion. Empathy is the ability to understand how someone is feeling. Compassion is the ability to see when someone is suffering and do something to help them. Our capacity for empathy is connected to our capacity to mirror emotions. If eyes are the mirror to the soul, eyebrows and the crinkles and wrinkles around the eyes are the mirrors to emotions. Eyebrows and those little crinkles and wrinkles around the eyes are a hot spot for micro expressions.
Without conscious knowledge, you are able to pick up if a person is happy, sad, stressed, or frightened by the tiny signals they send when their eyebrows spread slightly apart, or dip down toward each other, scrunch together and lift up or spread to either side. You are able to pick up another person's feeling not because you think; oh their eyebrows are scrunched this way or that but because your face naturally mirrors theirs, which conveys to your mind and heart what they are feeling.
Botox prevents you from mirroring another person's expressions, which can cause you to lose clues about how those around you are feeling. It also prevents you from true expressions of your feelings. The reason it is so important to have empathy has to do with relationships.
The most important thing to happiness is relationships. The famous Harvard study that followed people across a lifetime tell us that a good relationship is key to a happy life.
And what is friendship for - whether with your life partner or anyone else? Most often people will say to have someone who understands you and will be there in the tough times. In other worlds, to have someone who has empathy and compassion to turn to in bad times and good. Botox robs a person of the ability to discern the small moments or things just under the skin, and so steals away a myriad of little opportunities to connect and show care and love to another.
So if you feel drawn to Botox or any of its kind to smooth out those wrinkles in your face, consider this: maybe those wrinkles are a good thing. Maybe they are there to say I care and I value how you are feeling, and my own feelings.
Universal basic income (UBI) , also called guaranteed basic income, is the concept that every working person should be provided with enough income to meet basic needs. Thus far, when UBI is put in practice, only those who earn very little or no income benefit.
Regional and local governments around the world, such as Manitoba and Ontario in Canada, Utrecht in the Netherlands, Nairobi in Kenya and several villages in India have experimented with it. The United States used a negative income tax (paying people who made little or no money when they filed their taxes) for some years. The State of Alaska and Spain both have forms of guaranteed basic income. Some national governments, such as Finland and Germany are also experimenting with the concept.
The COVID-19 pandemic, with the shutdown's impact on loss of income supplemented by many governments may yield opportunities to help answer some questions about guaranteed basic income, such as: what do people do when they cannot do their jobs and have a guaranteed income? Do they stop working or do they find other ways to work? If they find other ways to work, do they find paid work or do they do unpaid work? You can ask yourself these questions if you received benefits during the pandemic.
AI’s job replacement rate is between 3-6 jobs.* Some researchers predict that worldwide, a massive percent of the workforce could lose their jobs in the next ten to twenty years. These predictions often give rise to a discussion about universal basic income.
*Acemoglu, D., & Restrepo, P. (2019). Robots and Jobs: Evidence from US Labor Markets. Journal of Political Economy, doi:10.1086/705716
**Susskind, D. (2020). A world without work: Technology, automation, and how we should respond. New York, NY: Henry Holt and Company; Amblee, R. (2019). Who pays who?How abundance created by Artificial Intelligence would pay for universal basic income. Gloture Books
How abundance created by Artificial Intelligence would pay for universal basic income. Gloture Books
Expectations are part of our nature. They empower you to shape your future. When you expect good things from yourself, act on those expectations and achieve them, then you have reason to feel a sense of accomplishment.
A person with unrealistic expectations for themselves can end up never feeling satisfied with any achievement, no matter how magnificent. Instead, they always feel a sense of not being enough. This may be in relation to feeling responsible for things they have no control over, such as saving the planet, reversing global warming or changing the political tides of a nation, or it may be in relation to a personal sense of unworthiness, so that no matter what they achieve, it is never enough because they feel as if they are not enough. These kinds of expectations are often established at an early age in a person's life, and it takes thoughtful reflection to understand how to set more realistic expectations for oneself.
Another source of unrealistic expectations can come from life’s stages. As your life circumstances change and as you age, your capacities change. One of the skills a person who successfully ages or adapts with resiliency to changes in life's circumstances is the ability to change their expectations.
Aging is one of the most obvious reasons for changing expectations. Changes in the physical body necessitate a change in expectations.. A thirty-year-old marathon runner cannot expect their seventy or eighty-year-old body to run 42.2 kilometers. However, changing their expectations may give them a similar sense of accomplishment from walking a few miles a day. Changing expectations for productivity may mean letting go of an aspiration of a career milestone and, instead, focusing on sharing knowledge through mentorship, writing and other ways of creating a legacy. As a person ages, they can change their expectations of their mental acuity by focusing on learning new things instead of worrying about memory loss (however, one should always consult a doctor when losing memory, as it may be treatable). This manner of changing expectations is not settling for less. It involves understanding and appreciating what you can do, and finding pleasure in your accomplishments based on that realistic awareness.
Loss also calls for change in expectations. A natural inclination when faced with loss is to try to replace what it is you have lost. For example, a person who loses a job will have a natural inclination to seek the same or a higher position, and a person who loses a partner may seek someone who is just like their last beloved. Understanding this inclination can help you view loss in a different way. A loss of a job, a relationship, or an investment can be a time to reflect on the choices in your life, and your life's path, and see if a change in your career, orientation or preoccupations would bring you more happiness.
Two generations ago, one could expect to be employed for their entire life. At least two of your grandparents probably started the first day of the job when they were less than twenty five years old and retired at sixty five or older. That would be unusual today. Few people can expect to have the same employer in five or ten years. Most people can expect to be “let go” at some point, laid off, or lose a job because of an economic downturn or advances in artificial intelligence (AI).
In the last century, technology has already eradicated many jobs: daguerreotypists, telephone switchboard operators and telegraph operators, knocker-ups (they taped on your window before alarm clocks were invented) and movie projectionists are a few. Technology has transformed every job, sometimes with great resistance. The term luddite comes from the English mill workers, who threw their shoes into the cotton gins (sometimes credited with bringing on the industrial revolution) because the new technology was replacing their jobs. Today it's not just factory workers who are seeing technology, in the form of AI, replacing or changing their jobs.
It is now less common to buy a railway or airline ticket from a person than from a kiosk or online platform, pay a toll to a toll booth operator than a machine, and get customer service from a live person rather than a bot. A few generations from now, people will probably have to look up what toll booth operator means the same way we do for daguerreotypists today.
AI is replacing manufacturing jobs in every industry: the auto, electronic, chemical, pharmaceutical and metals industries, retail and business to business, restaurant and transportation industries, as well as highly skilled jobs in the business, science, medicine, law* and psychology**. Eventually, AI will likely be a large part of every job, just as digital technology is today, or, as feared by some, In the current economic paradigm, AI may altogether replace humans in the workforce.*** Unemployment causes unhappiness and can leave a person with feelings of anxiety, dejection and depression for many years, even after they find a new employment.****
If AI causes unemployment on a massive scale, humans who rely upon jobs for support will need a new economic paradigm.. One way to prepare for unemployment in your own life is to change your perspective of what work is.
*Acemoglu, D., & Restrepo, P. (2019). Robots and Jobs: Evidence from US Labor Markets. Journal of Political Economy, doi:10.1086/705716; Lo, Y., Woo, C. & Ng, K. (2019). The necessary roadblock for artificial general intelligence: corrigibility. Easy Chair Print, 846. Retrieved from https://wwww.easychair.org/publications/preprint_download/gRlw
** Gratzer D, Goldbloom D. Open for Business: Chatbots, E-therapies, and the Future of Psychiatry. The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry. 2019;64(7):453-455. doi:10.1177/0706743719850057
***Harari, Y. (2016). Homo Deus. Harvill Secker.
**** Clark, A., Flèche, S., Layard, R., Powdthavee, N. & Ward, G. (2018). Origins of Happiness. Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press.
Money is important but it is not the ultimate aim of life. It is what you do with money that matters. You exchange money for food, shelter, and everything else you need to feel safe and comfortable. You save or invest extra money you earn with the expectation you will use it to buy what you need to be safe and comfortable in the future. Most people use money to meet most of their needs. We call it earning a living, or supporting oneself.
Imagine a world where AI did the work you are doing now. It is the same for your neighbors and the people you encounter in your daily life: grocery clerks, the sanitation workers, doctors, teachers and professors, and even artists and authors.
Where will you be? In that world, it may be true that “the most important decision you can make for your happiness is which parents you choose” as stated by Nobel Laureate Joseph Stiglitz said at the 5th OECD World Forum on Statistics, Knowledge and Policy in 2015. Only the few who control AI may have jobs and they may be the only ones who can feed, clothe and shelter their families. You may be homeless, living hand to mouth, hungry, anxious, and, in all likelihood, eventually addicted. Unable to meet your basic needs, you and others like you might fall into a lawless armageddon, filling prisons and fulfilling doomsday prophecies about AI and humanity. Or you may be part of a sustainable community that generates its own food, clothing, shelter and energy. You may find ways to put your talents to work that foster security and a sustainable capacity to meet needs for you and others. You may be fulfilling dreams of utopian societies and a simpler life.
On the other hand, universal basic income may become as ubiquitous as taxes are today. You may have enough money to meet your needs, but no purpose or meaning in life. Instead of being homeless you become hopeless and descend into depression. Or you could take another route, and free income may liberate you to explore and develop parts of yourself so that you fully live your purpose. You may find yourself inspired and driven to create and produce goods or services that help other people, or to take a much more active role than you ever considered in building and maintaining a strong community around you.
In preparation for the almost nearly inevitable changes you will face in your employment status, you can define what support means to you. Support is composed of many things - from food to love, home to hope. Another way to think about support is all the things you need to be happy.
- Written by L. Musikanski
The Happiness Movement has always been about systemic change, and at its core, has always focused on where people are hurting the most. In this tragic (and not unfamiliar) time, we grieve, both as a nation and individually, the loss of the lives of some of our future generation, and the loss of a sense of safety for all of our children. Today the leading cause of death among our children (ages 5-19) is gun violence. There are some more guns than people in America at present and about 50,000 guns are sold daily. Thus, we present our Call to Action, and ask you to do the same. You are welcome to download ours and adapt it for your own Call to Action
In California and other areas, laws are under consideration or enacted to ban oil-powered cars. Is this the answer to sustainable development? It is true that such laws will increase production of electric another alternative powered vehicles, and the alternative fueled car industry may be a good investment - that is if our environment will survive.
There are many problem with electric car legislation, from social inequity to the wars and human rights violations each time lithium is in demand, not the least of which is how do we expect to meet the demands of electricity? (Spoiler alert here - nuclear power is already powering many of us). But the main problem is that this kind of legislation takes us further away from systems that allow for sustainable living and sustainable development.
So, why don’t we do the smart thing? Let's invest in public transportation. Let’s just ban cars all together, and create clean public transportation systems that support rather than deplete the environment. And let's put an end to living out of harmony with each other and nature, and take a note from the world’s happiest countries, where village living allows people to work, play and live pretty close to sustainably.
There are other solutions. These solutions are not brain science. They are what our great grandmothers knew, they are in all of our past, and they are right there for us to discover. Can you make a difference? Remember - language is the DNA of culture. Talking, thinking, sharing ideas about how to live sustainably makes a difference.
Authored by L. Musikanski
A special message from John de Graaf, co-founder of the Happiness Alliance and founder of And Beauty For All:
I'm excited to report that the Happiness Alliance’s Happiness Index survey now contains a question helping to measure the connection between beauty (landscape and built environment) and happiness or wellbeing.
I’ve argued for some time that this is an important connection. An extensive Gallup study (Soul of the Community) and another by the University of South Carolina (Untangling what makes cities livable: happiness in five cities) and The Beauty-Happiness Connection) have established a strong connection between the "aesthetics" of a community and the life satisfaction and attachment to the place of its residents.
A study in Vienna, Austria found that people walking through areas of parks and green spaces report higher happiness and have lower cortisol levels (Green Space and Stress: Evidence from Cortisol Measures in Deprived Urban Communities). Another extensive study using the Mappiness app in the UK showed higher levels of everyday life satisfaction in places thought to be aesthetically pleasing by a large study of preferences using photos of places (Happiness is Greater in Natural Environments). And a series of studies in Philadelphia (To Combat Gun Violence, Clean Up the Neighborhood) showed a major drop in crime, decrease in mental illness and increase in community trust where ugly, littered, lots and abandoned homes in the city were converted to parks and gardens. And there's lots more evidence!
Guest post by David Wilson of happylifeguru.com.
Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the United States, affecting 40 million adults in the US age 18 and older. That's 18% of the population! If you are one of the millions of people who suffer from anxiety attacks, you know how debilitating they can be.
Anxiety is often not associated with happiness, but it plays a significant role. This is why the Happiness Index includes a question about anxiety alongside the question about how happy you feel. Medically, anxiety is has a similar impact on the mind and body as depression, and can be thought of as form of depression when chronic.
In this blog post, we will discuss 10 effective ways to get rid of anxiety attacks and live a happier life!
Number 1: Accept the feelings
The first step to getting rid of anxiety is to accept the feelings. Anxiety is a normal emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their life. It's important to remember that you are not the only person who feels this way.
There is nothing bad about anxiety. We sometimes need anxiety to prepare our bodies for a stressful situation, but sometimes we have too much anxiety, whether because of too many things in life that are stressful or a past trauma causes ongoing anxiety, and then anxiety can be debilitating and harmful to your health. This happens also when anxiety is chronic.
When anxiety gets bad once it starts to interfere with our daily lives, our happiness and health. That's when it becomes a problem.
Number 2: Don't try to control everything
The second way to get rid of anxiety is to stop trying to control everything. We can't control everything in our life, no matter how hard we try. This is something that we need to accept.
Trying to control everything is a major cause of anxiety. It's important to learn to let go and accept that some things are out of your control. This tip can be particularly useful when you feel anxiety because of a lot of things, or a life-changing event, that are not in your direct control, such as the loss of a job or relationship, moving, the death of a loved one, or other circumstances and situations.
Number 3: Avoid drugs and alcohol
The third way to get rid of anxiety is to avoid recreational drugs and alcohol. Drugs and alcohol can actually make anxiety worse. They can also lead to other problems, such as addiction, which can contribute to anxiety.
Avoiding recreational drugs and alcohol if you suffer from anxiety can be very hard, because you may feel relief from your anxiety when you have a smoke, hit or drink. The problem is that once you are no longer high or tipsy, the anxiety comes right back, and when it is chronic, it can get worse and worse over time This is how recreational drugs or alcohol can make a problem worse.
There are medications that can be very helpful in managing anxiety that your doctor can prescribe. Medications give your body - and your mind- a break from anxiety. They are particularly helpful in conjunction with talk therapy, which helps to understand the root cause of your anxiety and find ways to resolve it. Sometimes, as in the case of past trauma, this is talk therapy. Sometimes, as in the case of over-working or a bad boss, this is making a life change.
Number 4: Get rid of negative thoughts
The fourth way to get rid of anxiety is to get rid of negative thoughts. Chronic anxiety can cause a feedback loop that causes more anxiety and lots of negative thinking y. If you can learn to change your thinking, you can change your anxiety. Learning how to change your thinking often takes understanding why you are thinking a certain way and a lot of awareness of your own thoughts, Mindfulness can be a very helpful way to develop awareness of your thoughts, and talk therapy can be helpful in understanding why you thing the things you do,
Negative thoughts are usually based on fears and other negative feelings.. When you talk about your feelings, they become clearer to you, and when you do not talk about them, the thought that fuel them can become exaggerated and then the feelings grow. Sustainably replacing negative thoughts with positive ones without awareness of when negative thoughts arise combined with compassionate understanding of why they arise is often not possible.
NOTE: If you have thoughts about suicide, contact a crisis line or call 911.
Number 5: Change your lifestyle habits
The fifth way to get rid of anxiety is to change your lifestyle habits. Unhealthy lifestyle habits can make anxiety worse. This includes things like poor diet, lack of exercise, and not getting enough sleep.
It's important to make sure that you are living a healthy lifestyle if you want to reduce your anxiety. Eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep are all important.
The most profoundly important thing you can do is get enough sleep. If you suffer from insomnia (not being able to get to sleep, or waking up too early and not being able to get back to sleep - the latter of which is often called stress anxiety), medical interventions can be a tremendously helpful, Your doctor can help you find a medication that you can use for a period of time that is not addictive. Another profoundly helpful habit is to get 15 minutes of cardiovascular exercise a day.
You can join friends and go for a run, or just go for a walk in the nature. Just enjoy moving your body.
Number 6: Seek professional help
The sixth way to get rid of anxiety is to seek professional help. If you find that your anxiety is interfering with your daily life, it's important to seek help from a mental health professional.
There are many different types of treatment available for anxiety. Talk therapy is where you talk about your feelings, thoughts, dreams and reflections to gain insight and develop awareness. An important aspect of talk therapy is the therapeutic relationship, which gives you the experience of a healthy caring relationship, It is important to find a therapist whom you trust and does not judge you, and you feel likes you. With the changes in the healthcare system due to Covid, there are more talk therapists available online. Mindfulness is another powerful intervention, whereby you develop awareness of and insight about your feelings, thoughts and patterns, as well as compassion for yourself. There are many different resources for learning mindfulness online, The trick is to find the one that best suits you. Some talk therapist integrate mindfulness into their therapy too, Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be anie t effective treatment in combination with talk therapy and mindfulness. CBT can help you to change the way you think about anxiety and how you react to it.
Number 7: Take Care of Yourself
The seventh way to get rid of anxiety is to take care of yourself. This includes things like eating a healthy diet, getting enough exercise, and getting enough sleep. It's also important to find ways to relax and de-stress. Self care is crucial for a happy life, yet something many people put last, particularly if they value helping others. Putting yourself last can cause anxiety in the long run, and leaves you less able to help others. Self care is not selfish, it is actually generous.
Do a wellness day and just live life a little bit.
There are many different things that you can do to take care of yourself. Find what works for you and make sure to do it on a regular basis.
Number 8: Connect with others
The eighth way to get rid of anxiety is to connect with others. Social support is one of the most important things for all people whether plagued by anxiety or not because humans are evolutionarily designed to need other people. Connecting with others can help you to feel less alone and more supported.
Make sure to spend time with friends and family who are loving and supportive to you, and to whom you are loving and supportive to. You can also join a support group, such as Al-Anon (which is for people who have problems with codependency, or see a therapist.
Number 9: Practice Relaxation Techniques
The ninth way to get rid of anxiety is to practice relaxation techniques. This includes things like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and visualization. Mindfulness, yoga, dancing, playing sports, singing, walking, hiking, boating, fishing and other activities can be helpful to relaxation. You can find lots of resources for yoga and other activities online - on YouTube and other sites.
Relaxation techniques can help you to feel more relaxed and less anxious. They can also help you to sleep better.
These nine tips are just a few of ways to alleviate anxiety. The best ways for you to alleviate your anxiety is based on your preferences, genetics, life circumstances, and is unique to you. Try out different things and see what works for you. Remember, it is always a good idea to seek professional help if you find that your anxiety is interfering with your daily life. You can talk to your doctor and/or find a therapist.
We hope you liked this blog post. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us. Thanks for reading!
Posts written by the People of the Happiness Alliance & our Friends.